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Sonu\u00e7lar hakk\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler<\/span><\/span><\/h1>\n<\/header>\n
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”\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Bir\u00e7ok ebeveyn gibi,” sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 “v\u0131z\u0131ldayan s\u00f6zlerimden biri. Emmett’in k\u00f6t\u00fc davranmas\u0131ndan \u00f6nce kullan\u0131yorum. Emmett k\u00f6t\u00fc davran\u0131yorken kullan\u0131yorum. Emmett k\u00f6t\u00fc davrand\u0131ktan sonra kullan\u0131yorum. Onu yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in d\u00fczenli olarak s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 kullan\u0131yorum. baz\u0131 prosed\u00fcrlerin olumsuz sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 oldu\u011funu ve bu sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n bir el hareketiyle sihirli bir \u015fekilde ortadan kald\u0131r\u0131lamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131n.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i> \u201d – Lynn Messina<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Lynne Messina’n\u0131n <\/span><\/span>New York Times\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/i>Motherlode blogundaki<\/span><\/span><\/i> “Sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n <\/span>Anlam\u0131n\u0131<\/span><\/i> \u00d6\u011fretme ve \u00d6\u011frenme” konusundaki samimiyetini takdir etsem de, “sonu\u00e7lar\u0131”\u00a0 <\/span>\u00a0yan\u0131lt\u0131c\u0131 (\u00e7ok yayg\u0131n olsa da) yorumlamalar\u0131 ve kullan\u0131mlar\u0131 beni rahats\u0131z ediyor. <\/span>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 sab\u0131rla uygun davran\u0131\u015flara y\u00f6nlendirirken, kendi de\u011ferlerini organik olarak i\u00e7selle\u015ftireceklerine g\u00fcvenmek yerine, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na ahlak ve etik \u00fczerine zorunlu dersler verilmesi gerekti\u011fine yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fekilde inan\u0131yor.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Makale boyunca Messina, ikiy\u00fczl\u00fc oldu\u011fu, stratejilerinin ters etki yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve mesajlar\u0131n\u0131n kar\u0131\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu gibi rahats\u0131z edici bir duyguya kap\u0131larak itiraf ediyor. <\/span><\/span>“O\u011fluma bir ders daha veriyorum: kinle nas\u0131l ba\u015f<\/span><\/span><\/i> edilir <\/span>“<\/span><\/i> diye endi\u015feleniyor\u00a0 <\/span>.\u00a0<\/span><\/i>Hi\u00e7 \u015f\u00fcphe yok ki hakl\u0131. <\/span>\u0130kilemine yan\u0131t, basit bir olguda yat\u0131yor olabilir: ebeveynlerin her zaman ortaya koydu\u011fu tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i>(her zaman\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>ve her zaman<\/span><\/span><\/i> \u00a0) \u00f6\u011fretmeyi hedefledi\u011fimiz derslerde ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olursunuz.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Disiplin kadar karma\u015f\u0131k bir ebeveynlik alan\u0131nda gezinirken, kendimizi rutin olarak \u00f6nemli bir soruyla kontrol etmemize yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir:\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i>Nihai ebeveyn hedeflerimiz?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Bizim \u00f6ncelikli hedefimiz \u00e7ocuklu kal\u0131c\u0131 ba\u011f ise, o \u201conu anlamas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak\u201d gibi tekrar ifadeler \u201cakl\u0131na bu kavram\u0131 horoz\u201d ve hatta \u201c\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>olsun<\/span><\/span><\/i> \u00a0onu b\u00f6yle ve\u201d B\u00f6yle biz raydan \u00e7ok a\u00e7\u0131k i\u015faretlerdir yapmak. <\/span>Manip\u00fclasyonun oldu\u011fu yerden ba\u015flamak iyi bir strateji de\u011fildir. <\/span>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n aktif olarak y\u00f6nlendirmesi gereken pozitif ortakl\u0131k yerine, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla \u201conlara kar\u015f\u0131 biz\u201d ili\u015fkisi yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in s\u00fcrekli olarak bizi zay\u0131flatacakt\u0131r.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Sonu\u00e7lar sayg\u0131l\u0131 disiplinde (a\u015fa\u011f\u0131da a\u00e7\u0131klayaca\u011f\u0131m) anlaml\u0131 bir rol oynasa da, sonu\u00e7lar \u015fu durumlarda i\u015fe yaramaz:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Bu sadece yapt\u0131r\u0131mlar i\u00e7in bir \u00f6rtmece<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Cezalar bazen istenmeyen davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 cayd\u0131rabilir, ancak ebeveynler genellikle cezalar\u0131n daha fazla cezaya yol a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. <\/span>Yapt\u0131r\u0131mlar, \u00f6\u011fretmedikleri veya <\/span><\/span>olumlu<\/span><\/span><\/i> davran\u0131\u015f sa\u011flamad\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in yetersiz \u00f6\u011fretmenlerdir\u00a0 <\/span>\u00a0.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Ayr\u0131ca talihsiz ve istenmeyen sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 olabilir. <\/span>Cezalar, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n utan\u00e7 ve \u00f6fkeyi i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmelerine, mesafe, izolasyon ve g\u00fcvensizlik yaratmalar\u0131na neden olur. <\/span>\u015eiddetli veya fiziksel cezalar korku, \u00f6fke, \u00e7aresizlik ve umutsuzluk yaratabilir.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Messina’n\u0131n \u00f6rne\u011fi:\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>“Yata\u011fa k\u00f6t\u00fc gidiyor; motosikletini kaybediyor\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><\/i>.”\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i>Ve b\u00f6ylece su\u00e7luluk d\u00f6ng\u00fcs\u00fc ba\u015flar. <\/span>\u015e\u00f6yle devam ediyor,\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>su\u00e7 \u00f6nemsiz g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor sonra c\u00fcmle saatleri ve bazen g\u00fcnler Ba\u015f\u0131na” adl\u0131. K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k gitti, ev yaral\u0131 bir parti Eski bir yaray\u0131 tedavi etmek gibi sessiz, Emmett ve benim bir araya g\u00fczelce ve sonra, onu geri \u00e7evirmek basit bir ret ile: Hay\u0131r, skuterini alamazs\u0131n bey. Hay\u0131r, parka gidemezsin.”<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Psikolog Paul Bloom’un \u00e7ocuklar ve ahlak \u00fczerine yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 dikkat \u00e7ekici \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bile temel bir adalet anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131na sahip oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor. <\/span>Sayg\u0131n sonu\u00e7, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z i\u00e7in adil olacakt\u0131r (bu, itiraz etmeyecekleri anlam\u0131na gelmez, muhtemelen yapacaklard\u0131r ve ‘anla\u015fmazl\u0131k’ kabul edilmeli ve kabul edilmelidir). <\/span>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck ve adaleti hissettiklerinde aram\u0131zdaki g\u00fcven ayn\u0131 kal\u0131r ve hatta \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00fc\u00e7lenir.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Yapt\u0131r\u0131mlar \u00f6nemsiz g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00f6yleler. <\/span>Bu, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n taklit etmesini istedi\u011fimiz ki\u015fili\u011fimizin bir y\u00f6n\u00fc m\u00fc?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Durumla ilgisi yoktur ve\/veya olaydan \u00e7ok sonra verilir<\/span><\/span><\/b> \u00a0.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Yukar\u0131daki scooter \u00f6rne\u011fine bak\u0131n. <\/span>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir\u00e7ok ilham verici \u015feylerden biri an\u0131 ya\u015famakt\u0131r. <\/span><\/span>\u00d6yle<\/span><\/span><\/i> hareket ettiler\u00a0 <\/span>\u00a0. <\/span>Ve \u00e7ocuk ne kadar k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckse, o kadar h\u0131zl\u0131 unutur ve eylemlerini sonu\u00e7lar\u0131yla ili\u015fkilendiremez. <\/span>Bu nedenle, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131zla herhangi bir konuda s\u0131n\u0131r koydu\u011fumuzda, bunu hemen yapmal\u0131 ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden, \u00f6fkelenmeden veya kin duymadan yolumuza devam etmeliyiz.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceyle, bir s\u0131n\u0131r olu\u015fturarak veya bir s\u0131n\u0131r koyarak durumdan ka\u00e7\u0131nabilir veya \u00f6nleyebilirdik.<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

H\u00e2l\u00e2 karars\u0131z k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun bacaklar\u0131 \u00fczerinde sallanan iki ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Luca, kendisine modern Lego ba\u015fyap\u0131t\u0131n\u0131 (d\u00f6rt yatak odas\u0131, \u00e7at\u0131 teras\u0131, hi\u00e7bir yere gitmeyen y\u00fcksek merdiven) birka\u00e7 dakikal\u0131\u011f\u0131na parampar\u00e7a eden 5 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki erkek karde\u015fi diyor. keyifli bir firar ile saatler \u00f6ncesinden.<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Emmett arkas\u0131n\u0131 d\u00f6ner ve ate\u015fli sevgisi i\u00e7in onu azarlar.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i>“Hay\u0131r, Luca,” dedi, “h\u00e2l\u00e2 sonu\u00e7lar\u0131yla y\u00fczle\u015fiyorsun.”<\/span><\/span><\/i>\u2028<\/i><\/p>\n

Daha b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n projelerini (\u00f6rne\u011fin y\u00fcksek bir masada) ke\u015ffetme ve test etme ile ilgilenen bebeklerden ve k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklardan koruyabilmeleri gerekir. <\/span>\u00d6nlenebilecekse, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n hi\u00e7birinin ebeveynlerinin b\u00f6yle bir olay\u0131n olmas\u0131na izin vermesi adil de\u011fil.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Zorla \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeyi veya di\u011fer yanl\u0131\u015f hareketleri i\u00e7erirler.<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

“Hemen, Luca’n\u0131n \u00f6zr\u00fcn\u00fc kabul etti\u011fini hat\u0131rlatmak i\u00e7in devreye girdim. Onu affettikten sonra birini k\u00f6t\u00fc hissettirmenin uygun olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorum.”\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/i>Burada manip\u00fcle edilen bir\u00e7ok duygu var. <\/span>Zahmetli g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyor.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Zorla \u00f6z\u00fcr dileme, affetme veya ba\u015fka herhangi bir duygu \u00e7ocuklara verimsiz bir\u00e7ok \u015fey \u00f6\u011fretir: ger\u00e7ek hislerinize g\u00fcvenmeyin; <\/span>yeti\u015fkinleri memnun ediyormu\u015f gibi yapmak; <\/span>“\u00dczg\u00fcn\u00fcm” ifadesini bahane olarak kullan\u0131n; <\/span>Sahte olmak vb.<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Sonu\u00e7lar, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki durumlarda etkili, sayg\u0131l\u0131 ve ili\u015fki in\u015fa eder:<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

1.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Ak\u0131lc\u0131, makul ve ya\u015fa uygun se\u00e7imler<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

\u201cBu bloklar\u0131 pencereye atmana izin veremem\u2026 Bloklar\u0131 atmakta zorlan\u0131yorsun. Onlar\u0131 hal\u0131ya veya sepete atabilirsin yoksa \u015fimdilik kald\u0131rmam gerekecek\u2026 S\u00f6yledi\u011fin i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcrler. Yard\u0131ma ihtiyac\u0131n var. Bloklar\u0131 kald\u0131raca\u011f\u0131m\u201d .<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

2. <\/span><\/span>Kibarca ve kendinden emin bir \u015fekilde (tehdit etmek yerine)<\/span><\/span><\/b> diyor\u00a0 <\/span>, sonra gitmesine izin veriyoruz ve devam ediyoruz<\/span><\/b> \u00a0.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c7o\u011fumuz i\u00e7in bu <\/span>\u00a0, fazla \u00fcz\u00fclmeden veya sinirlenmeden \u00f6nce <\/span><\/span>s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131 erkenden belirlememiz<\/span><\/span><\/i> gerekti\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelir\u00a0 <\/span>.<\/span><\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

3.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>\u00c7ocu\u011fumuzun bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ve duygular\u0131ndan gelen te\u015fekk\u00fcrlerin yan\u0131 s\u0131ra (ne kadar makul g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrlerse g\u00f6r\u00fcns\u00fcnler).<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

“Parkta kalmak istedim ama sen arkada\u015flar\u0131na vurmamakta \u00e7ok zorland\u0131n, o y\u00fczden gitmemiz gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yledin. Ne kadar \u00fczg\u00fcn oldu\u011funu duydum.”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

4.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Tutarl\u0131, \u00f6ng\u00f6r\u00fclebilir tepkiler, \u00e7ocu\u011fumuzun tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 rutin unsurlar<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

“Yemeyi bitirdin mi? Aya\u011fa kalk\u0131yorsun ve bu bana i\u015fin bitti\u011fini s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor. Pekala, daha fazlas\u0131 i\u00e7in arkana yaslan, l\u00fctfen bitene kadar kalkma. Oh, \u015fimdi tekrar kalkt\u0131m, yani Ben yeme\u011fi kald\u0131raca\u011f\u0131m.Bitti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi\u011fin i\u00e7in te\u015fekk\u00fcrler. yak\u0131nda tekrar.”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

5.\u00a0 <\/span><\/span>Ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ger\u00e7ek bir ifadesi<\/span><\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

Nazik disiplinin savunucular\u0131ndan baz\u0131lar\u0131na kat\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131m yer buras\u0131…<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

S\u0131n\u0131flar\u0131mdan birinden (daha sayg\u0131l\u0131, ilgili, harika bir anne olamazd\u0131) bir anne, kitap turunun bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak \u00fcnl\u00fc sevimli bir ebeveynlik dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n\u0131n verdi\u011fi bir konferansa kat\u0131ld\u0131. <\/span>Bu annenin en b\u00fcy\u00fck zorlu\u011fu s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 g\u00fcvenle belirlemektir. <\/span>Durum kendi ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131yla ilgiliyse veya bir g\u00fcvenlik sorunu kadar a\u00e7\u0131k de\u011filse, \u00f6zellikle kendinden \u015f\u00fcphe duymaya ve su\u00e7luluk duymaya e\u011filimlidir.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Dan\u0131\u015fmana alt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 bir oyun randevusu i\u00e7in bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131n evine g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcrken ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir deneyimi sordum. <\/span>K\u0131z\u0131, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck karde\u015fi taraf\u0131ndan \u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc ve \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k atmay\u0131 b\u0131rakmad\u0131. <\/span>Anne sab\u0131rla birka\u00e7 kez durmas\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6ylemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131 ama o devam etti. <\/span>Anne ipinin ucundayd\u0131. <\/span>Bu dan\u0131\u015fmana, k\u0131z\u0131na \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k atmay\u0131 b\u0131rakamazsa arabay\u0131 \u00e7evirip eve gideceklerini s\u00f6ylemesinin uygun olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 sordum. <\/span>Dan\u0131\u015fman\u0131n cevab\u0131 hay\u0131rd\u0131, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu ebeveynler taraf\u0131ndan dayat\u0131lan bir sonu\u00e7tu.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Yalan s\u00f6ylemeyece\u011fim – bunu duymak beni yar\u0131 \u00e7\u0131ld\u0131rtt\u0131. <\/span>\u0130\u015fte \u00f6zellikle s\u0131n\u0131rlar koymak ve kendine sad\u0131k kalmak i\u00e7in deste\u011fe ihtiyac\u0131 olan ve bunun yerine bunu \u00f6nerdi\u011fi i\u00e7in azarlanan bir anne.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130ronik olarak, bu dan\u0131\u015fman ebeveynlerin ba\u011f\u0131rmay\u0131 b\u0131rakmalar\u0131na yard\u0131m etme konusunda uzmanla\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r, ancak ba\u011f\u0131rma bulmacas\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6nemli bir par\u00e7as\u0131n\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r: Ebeveynler, kendilerine bakmalar\u0131 i\u00e7in d\u00fcnyadaki t\u00fcm cesaretlendirmeye, sakin, d\u00fcr\u00fcst, adil ve kendinden emin bir \u015fekilde ihtiya\u00e7 duyarlar, bu y\u00fczden onlar bunu yapmazlar. . <\/span>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerine gitmeyin. <\/span>Arabay\u0131 devretmek, eski sanat malzemelerini \u00e7\u0131karmaya yard\u0131m etmeden \u00f6nce \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n da\u011f\u0131n\u0131k sanat malzemelerini almas\u0131n\u0131 engellemek ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 giymeyi reddetti\u011finde parka gitmemek i\u00e7in izin almalar\u0131 gerekiyor:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

“Bug\u00fcn parka gitmek istedi\u011fini s\u00f6yledin ama giyinmezsen yeterli zaman\u0131m\u0131z olmayacak. Yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir miyim?” <\/span>Veya, “Ger\u00e7ekten yoruluyorum, bu y\u00fczden ikinci bir kitap istiyorsan\u0131z l\u00fctfen di\u015flerinizi f\u0131r\u00e7alamama yard\u0131m edin.” <\/span>Veya, “Bir oyun randevusunu ka\u00e7\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in \u00e7ok hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum, ama \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k atmay\u0131 b\u0131rakm\u0131yorsunuz ve a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7as\u0131 art\u0131k dayanamad\u0131m.”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Sonu\u00e7lar ve cezalar aras\u0131ndaki temel fark, d\u00fcr\u00fcst ve samimi kat\u0131l\u0131m\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. <\/span>Ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 umursamadan sevimli ebeveynler olamay\u0131z… ve bu t\u00fcr bir modellemenin sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 gayet iyi.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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Onu yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak i\u00e7in d\u00fczenli olarak s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 kullan\u0131yorum. baz\u0131 prosed\u00fcrlerin olumsuz sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 oldu\u011funu ve bu sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n bir el hareketiyle sihirli bir \u015fekilde ortadan kald\u0131r\u0131lamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131n.\u00a0 \u201d – Lynn Messina Lynne …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3737,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[25],"tags":[2984],"class_list":["post-9276","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized-tr","tag-truths-about-consequences-tr"],"yoast_head":"\nSonu\u00e7lar hakk\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler - zdmaa<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/zdmaa.com\/tr\/truths-about-consequences\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"tr_TR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Sonu\u00e7lar hakk\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler - zdmaa\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Sonu\u00e7lar hakk\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler ”\u00a0 Bir\u00e7ok ebeveyn gibi,” sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 “v\u0131z\u0131ldayan s\u00f6zlerimden biri. 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